I have often heard that love and fear cannot exist in our minds at the same time. Truthfully, when I am afraid about something, I haven't had the opportunity to turn to love and focus on who or what I can love at that moment. I have not tried that experiment but I believe it might be true.
HOWEVER, I think exercising the gratitude muscle can be done at any time, in just about any place. I get an opportunity to go on FOX television this Thursday and the truth is, I am afraid. Yes, I know in my rational mind that there is nothing to fear, that I have done it before and I will appear calm, cool and collective on screen. Try to convince my emotions of that though! Not so easy. So, I am practicing gratitude to see if it can replace fear. What do you think?
I won't bore you with the list here, but I am going to pause this post & I'm going to write down 50 things I am grateful for right not. Be right back.....
Well, I did it. Guess what? It works!!! I wrote down about 20 things and it distracted my mind and the fear wasn't there. Then, I purposely decided to think about the fear again and it was there. So I kept writing 10 more things, all the while FEELING the gratitude I had for these things, not just writing the words. I thought of my fear again and guess what? It didn't have the strong hold on me. I wrote 10 more things and tried to feel the fear again. Again, it was much, much less. I had to start stretching to think of the last 10 things (the blanket that is on my lap right now, my comfy bed upstairs, that I have vision) and you know what happened? I tried to think of the fear again and I couldn't feel it. Almost like I was bored thinking about it and my mind wanted to find something else to thing about, not that!
My suspicion is that fear will creep back in, but what if I made it a practice to be grateful? Even as I drive to the TV studio, I can have my hands on the steering wheel and talk out loud about the things I am grateful for.
I wonder if this will work for other things. Will being grateful help release anger, worry, guilt and sadness? Want to try it? Let me know what you think!
I am grateful you took the time to read this. Thank you!!!
Sandra Champlain is the author of the #1 international bestseller, We Don’t Die – A Skeptic’s Discovery of Life After Death and How to Survive Grief CD. She is the co-founder of We Care Grief Support helping others through loss back into life. See the documentary made about Sandra and her mission called We Don’t Die – Documenting a Skeptic’s Discovery of Life After Death.