I had the awesome opportunity yesterday to spend an hour on a Skype face to face call, with my friend, Dr. Ken Stoller, founder of GriefSOS.com and author of Oxytocin: The Hormone of Healing and Hope.
Dr. Ken was kind enough to read my book, We Don’t Die, and give me a great endorsement. He has also been sharing my How to Survive Grief, free audio, on his website. Finally, we got to virtually meet yesterday and am I sure glad we did. Ken opened my eyes to a hormone we all produce, called “oxytocin.”
Oxytocin is a hormone that we naturally produce when bonding with another person such as while breast-feeding, hugging, holding hands, snuggling, close dancing (with a partner) and love making. It provides us with feelings of relaxation, contentment, generosity, compassion and forgiveness. It helps us build trust with others and form bonds. It also helps decrease feelings of fear and anxiety.
In 2007, Dr. Ken Stoller received first-hand knowledge of using “oxytocin treatment” for grief. His 16-year old son had been killed in a train accident, leaving him in deep sadness and despair. His fear, anxiety and panic seemed to take on a life of its own. He felt as it was “suffocating and debilitating.”
Dr. Ken administered himself oxytocin in the form of nasal spray. He said, “The panic and fear dropped away from me as if I were shedding clothing. If I wanted to think about my son’s train accident, I could. But the moment I didn’t want to think about it, the accident faded into the background of my mind. It wasn’t there hammering away at me as if it had a life of its own.”
Dr. Ken Stoller has been on a mission to inform the medical community on the results of oxytocin therapy he has found with his patients. He says “To date, I have never prescribed oxytocin for a patient in grief who did not report significant benefit from its use. As for myself, after just a few weeks I was able to completely stop using oxytocin. In that short period of time, it gave me the ability to deal with the worst kind of emotional pain without getting completely swallowed up by it.”
I am grateful to Dr. Ken for this information. Knowing first-hand the agony of grief, from the death of my father, I am happy to share with people the news about oxytocin therapy. He is also successfully using oxytocin therapy in the treatment of addiction, autism, sexual dysfunction, and obsessive-compulsive disorder.
I am interested in trying oxytocin myself and will try it in the form of sublingual tablet (placed under my tongue to dissolve) as opposed to the nose spray. As a woman who as always battled my weight and often obsesses about food, I’m interested in seeing if the thoughts subside and the entire box of cookies does not get eaten! As a single gal, I don’t have a person to hug to produce the oxytocin on its own. I will keep you posted when it arrives!
Taking oxytocin is not harmful and there are no side effects, in fact there are some helpful benefits to women for preventing bone loss and decreasing risk of breast cancer. He advises that anyone interested interested in oxytocin therapy to download his free booklet, Oxytocin: The Hormone of Healing and Hope on his GriefSOS.com website.