My dear friend, Angie Cartwright and I just launched an online grief support site. Below is the transcript of our conversation video from our launch page:
Hi, I’m Angie Cartwright. Founder of Grief the Unspoken and National Grief Awareness Day.
And I’m Sandra Champlain, author of #1 international, best-seller “We Don’t Die - A Skeptic’s Discovery of Life After Death” and the audio “How to Survive Grief” - Together, Angie and I are the creators of "WE CARE GRIEF SUPPORT an all-encompassing community that focuses on your healing.
A problem we all have to face is grief. When you experience a significant loss in your life, your world turns upside down. We are never prepared for it and ask “Why did this have to happen?” We find ourselves wondering, “Why do I hurt so bad?” and, “How long will I feel this way?” Ultimately we ask, “ Will my life ever be the same?”
Sandra and I know first hand what a broken heart feels like. It feels like our life is over. Grief brings with it incredible darkness and sadness. It touches every aspect of our lives. Our relationships suffer...we find ourselves arguing with those closest to us. We can’t sleep, we cannot stop our minds from thinking about our loss, we replay conversations in our mind over and over and over again. We cannot concentrate at work. We are often angry, sad and just want to be alone.
Angie and I have learned through our own experiences, our education and our training THAT IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY. By learning exactly what grief is, how it effects our minds and our bodies, and having a system to move through your grief with people that care about you & support you, your pain can be eased. Together we can start to bring healing into your life. We are not offering a “cure” or promising that grief release is “easy,” we know first hand that there is nothing easy about grief. But we do know that our system works. It gives you “time off” from the pain, gives you hope, gives you comfort, gives you understanding and even some smiles and laughter. Together we’ll help you release the pain of grief and get you back into life. Angie and I have experienced deep grief and we care about you and know we can make a difference in your life RIGHT NOW.
Most people are all alone in their grief and never even think of asking for help!
Unfortunately, we cannot avoid grief or run away from the pain. We all know people who have lost a loved one and may be stuck in grief for years and years. We know of people who haven’t talked to a relative in years or may have even ended their life because of grief.
Did you know that grief is actually a chemical process in our brain? The longer we grieve, the longer we form a habit for grieving in our minds. It is not our fault. However, understanding exactly what grief is and how it impacts our brains and bodies there are some tools to restore the balance in your brain and ease the pain. Our homework to release the grief and the tools inside the WE CARE membership site REALLY DO HELP. You are not on your own here. We will be with you every step of the way.
This is Sandra and I want to tell you a little about one of my experiences with grief. My dad had cancer and I spent the last 5 months of his life by his side. It was the most painful experience I’ve ever felt. Not only did dad die, but my siblings and I started arguing so bad that we no longer spoke. I couldn’t see them or their children. I was grieving the loss of all of them too. I was in the darkest, most depressed place of my life. I didn’t believe I could continue living. Now, I don’t know where it came from but I had the idea to investigate GRIEF. I’m normally a happy person, not the sad, angry person I had become. What I learned about grief changed my life. So I created an audio called How To Survive Grief, to help others that I posted on the internet. It went viral. Within months, I had people writing me telling me from all over the world telling me how much my information eased their pain, helped their relationships and even prevented suicide!
At that point I knew I had to do more. I decided to write a book and include the information I knew about grief. I wanted to get to everyone I could. I knew that ‘fear of dying’ is mankind’s biggest fear. I had secretly been studying “life after death” and looking for evidence that life after death is real for 15 years. I courageously approached a publisher who didn’t think I was crazy. Within a year my book “We Don’t Die - A Skeptic’s Discovery of Life After Death” was published. My grief information is in the book to teach people who might not recognize they are grieving. I also give all my life after death proof as well as tools to live a powerful life while we here on earth. We Don’t Die has hit #1 top grief book on Amazon and has ranked #4 top motivational book too! I’ve now been on FOX & NBC Television, interviewed on radio and newspapers and am doing Barnes & Noble book signings. Who would have EVER thought that the best thing that has happened to me in my life had to come from the most painful event in my life.
This is Angie.
In 1996 I was involved in a horrific accident with my husband he was killed instantly. I had huge survivors guilt. I was unable to bath or eat. I had horrific nightmares, and was not functioning at any level. I did nothing for my grief. My treatment was alcohol and medication. I ended up in the hospital several times and felt suicidal for years.
This nightmare went on until 2003 where I began my healing journey. In that time span my grief intensified and I had no relief. I could push it away for awhile but it always came back. I thought I was just depressed.
In 2010 when we lost our mother to a drug overdose I was back in the grief world. Shaken to my very core. After some time with some of the fog lifted I knew I couldn't live like this for ten more years. I started to do my grief work and have felt better and better everyday.
Today I know action is the key to healing. After all that time grieving my husband I was worse, way worse. Nothing had changed on my insides. My heart was still broken. As I tell you this, it has been three years since the loss of our loving mother. I set her with gratitude, a deep gratitude.
I am so grateful I got the help. My family has a new Angie back. I still cry at times for my mother. I experience sad days. but that is normal. We will always miss our loved ones. But the difference for me today is I'm not stuck there. I get out of bed and have passion, and purpose in my life.
Grief work is not easy. There were days I wasn't sure I could do it, or if it was even working. As I look back the changes were subtle. I began to leave the house a little more. I began to not sob all day, I could actually have moments of a hopeful future.
One day at a time sometimes one second at a time it was working. I stayed close to those who were guiding me, and when I wanted to back out they were there to pick me up again. Honesty, being open to new ideas, and willingness were the keys.
I could of never guessed that three years ago out of pain I would go on to started a small closed grief group of Facebook called Grief The Unspoken.. Now we are over 50 thousand. This last August was our first ever National Grief Awareness Day! Everything I wanted to change and see happen for those who are grieving is happening as we speak. I never thought it would be my life's work. I am forever grateful.
Do you know why winners win in their sports? Because they have studied the rules of the game, they each have a coach and they practice. Could you imagine training to win a marathon without knowing how far you have to run or what kind of sneakers to wear? What if you didn’t know about nutrition and rest and strength training? What if you didn’t know you had to build up to running 26.2 miles? Could you imagine waking up one day and trying to run a marathon if you have never done it before? You might not get far, you might think of yourself as a failure and never try it again. We need to learn the rules of any game we play. The same holds true for grief. There is a way through it. However, we need the rules, we need the practices and we need a coach that can stay by our side until we get the result we want. Angie and are your coaches. We will give you everything we’ve got so you “win” and not only release your grief but and have a great life.
We Care Grief Support is a private membership site, like a private club. In it you will find:
• Education about Grief - what it is and why we must all go through it
• The Grief Release Course - a 10 assignment system to work through your grief
• Tools to Ease the Pain of Grief - there are many to choose from
• Conference Calls - each call we will teach a certain thing for you to use in your life RIGHT NOW and we will personally answer your questions. We record every call so you don’t have to be live on the call if you are busy or working.
• Holiday Support and advice - We know how difficult it is to make it through the holidays
• Questions, Answers and Advice: You can ask us anything. There are other members who have learned some things that can help us all.
• Forum Discussions - here you can write a tribute to a loved one, share some inspiration or talk about what is in your heart with other members.
• Bonus Gifts - well, they are bonuses for a reason, so we can’t tell you what they are! They are nice things that will get your mind off grief and and help you live your life. We are certain you’ll like them.
To access the site, you will use your email address and private password to enter. It is easy to navigate and click on all the things Angie just mentioned. There are LOTS of places to post your questions, comments and get involved. We are constantly adding new content and will always keep you updated.
YOU CAN CANCEL AT ANYTIME. We also give you a full 30 day money back guarantee. If for any reason you are not satisfied with our program, let us know and we’ll refund your payment, no questions asked.
We know getting help and training can be expensive. We can easily spend hundreds of dollars on books and easily $75 dollar an hour or more for a one-on-one session with a grief coach. We often don’t read the books we’ve bought, and stop getting the help and comfort we need because we cannot afford the price. One agreement Sandra and I both made with each other is that WE CARE GRIEF SUPPORT will be affordably priced so you can get the help you need without worrying about the price.
After joining our site you will become part of OUR FAMILY. The family that loves you unconditionally and that cares about you and does not judge you. We will stay by your side as long as it takes for you to have the quality of life that you want to have. We are here to listen to you, coach you and now, with the help of the computer and cell phone technology, you can assess us at any time, from anywhere in the world that you are. You can sign in at anytime and ask a question, see a video to calm your mind, get a bit of inspiration or listen to a past training call. We promise, it sure does help to not be alone and have a community that really cares about you. In fact, it is proven that some of the most successful people in the world succeeded because they were part of a like-minded community.
When you join us, we are going to send you a ‘thank you’ gift. Remember that grief audio Sandra mentioned? There has also been a documentary made about Sandra’s journey from skeptic to believer in life after death. We’ll send you both the How to Survive Grief CD and the We Don’t Die DVD in the mail as our gift to you. We know they will make a big difference in the healing process.
If you scroll down you can see two options to join. You can either pay a monthly membership fee or a we offer one yearly time fee at a greatly reduced discount. It’s completely your choice. Remember, there are no strings attached to this offer. Just let us know within 30 days if you are not completely satisfied and we’ll give you a full refund. No questions asked. We truly are here to help you and we want you to be 100% satisfied.
Sometimes the hardest part of a journey is taking that first step. WE want you to have everything we’ve got so you can have more freedom, less pain, some new friends and maybe even a little fun. We really do care about you and promise that WE CARE GRIEF SUPPORT will make a huge difference in your life.So please, GET STARTED TODAY at www.wecaregriefsupport.com